Our church is hosting a conference this weekend with Paul Tripp as the speaker. The opening tonight was great! It was very convicting as we were reminded of the many ways we get in the way of God moving in the lives of our children because we are responding out of our selfish desire for what we want in the moment. Dr. Tripp reminded us that behavior is a result of what is in the heart.
For no good tree bears bad fruit, nor again does a bad tree bear good fruit, for each tree is known by its own fruit. For figs are not gathered from thornbushes, nor are grapes picked from a bramble bush. The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.
Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
He also pointed out that the biblical model of how God deals with us is to show us the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.
So how do we reflect this model? How do we help our children see their hearts? He gave 5 practical questions. As he said, the exact words aren’t important, but the order is. So these are in the correct order, but may or may not be exactly as he stated!
- What happened? (Get a basic idea of the situation.)
- What were you thinking or feeling? (The thoughts of the heart)
- What did you do? (The behavior that overflows from the heart!)
- Why did you do it? (The intention or motive of the heart.)
- What was the result?